Within our society, men and boys can suffer appalling sexual
assaults and humiliations, but rarely does a victim cry out for help. Men are
seen by society as strong protectors, capable of defending themselves. Such are
men's feeling of shame, they will often be desperate to keep the assault secret
- even from themselves. The result can be a feeling of hopeless isolation with
no-one to turn to. These feelings can remain with them and wreck their
Many survivors say that the hardest part of coming to terms
with what happened is to stop blaming themselves.
Today there is more understanding than ever before and you
don't have to suffer in silence. You can survive.
No-one deserves to
No survivor deserves the blame.
Some helpful materials
|| M-Power has a
self-help guide which gives practical information on how you can get
through and manage your life.
You can download the PDF version by clicking
here or you can obtain a printed copy free of
charge from SeVA. email us, call us or write to us for your copy.
Click here for our contact details.
||In an attempt to
address the lack of independent counsellors available, Survivors UK provides
details of counsellors around the country who they know have an understanding
of the issues for men who have suffered sexual assault at any time in their
lives. All counsellors on their list have attended a three-day assessment and
accreditation workshop and have provided details of their qualifications, proof
of supervision and police check.
UK and click on 'COUNSELLORS'
||Abused Boys - the neglected victims of Sexual Abuse
by Mic Hunter (Fawcett Books, 1990, ISBN
Extremely helpful for anyone struggling with childhood
trauma. Mic Hunter has sensitively constructed a valuable collection of real
situations that many survivors will relate to.
Victims No Longer by Mike Lew (Harper/Perennial,
1988. ISBN 0-7493-1656-x)
A classic on men abused as boys. Worth buying and keeping. Usually available
from big bookshops and from Amazon bookshops website. Covers every conceivable
Broken Boys/Mending Men by Stephen D.
Grubman-Black (Ballantine Books) 1990
Written by a survivor and including stories of other survivors.
The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass & Laura
Davies (Cedar 1988)
Although written originally for female survivors this is still well worth
reading because it is such a great and uplifting book. Of great practical use
with many self-help exercises.
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with extensive information on contact organisations.